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Marley & Me

Went to see 'Marley & Me' just now. Great movie (I'm a sucker for Owen Wilson, I have to admit), but it was a little too soon after Pizzy's death, really. Putting Marley down was just a little too raw, and I was in floods of tears! It was nice, really, to see a grown man cry over such a thing. Sure, I know real people do all the time, but it's somehow reassuring to see people who genuinely care about their pets and are crushed when they have to lose 'em. It's sad that it takes a grown man's pain to reaffirm my faith in humanity, but there you go..

Tell you what though, the movie gave me three very clear emotions:

1) I really, really don't think I want kids. I know it's very situational and I could change my mind when I find the right guy and get settled down on an absolute path in life, but christ. I don't want to change who I am. People say 'having kids is a change, not necessarily for the worst' but, y'know what? Sod that. If I've got a job I love, a husband I love and a life I love, I don't know if I'll want to change that. It's a hell of a risk.

2) I want a dog. :(

3) I don't want any more pets ever.

Yeah, #2 and #3 don't really play well together, but them's the breaks.

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thaily
Mar. 11th, 2009 07:29 pm (UTC)
Good news is, you don't have to have kids regardless of whoever whines at you to pop out a couple. Bad news is, there's gonna be a lot of whining in your future and people who think they know you better than you know yourself even if they've only met you 5 minutes ago :P
moonykins
Mar. 11th, 2009 07:39 pm (UTC)
This.

Every time I say I do not want children, at all, ever, they laugh at me and say I'll change my mind. Bitch, please.

I want a LOT of kids, but all of the kind with fur and paws!
nickmurdoch
Mar. 11th, 2009 07:43 pm (UTC)
A husband? Did I miss something again?
reaperfox
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:25 pm (UTC)
who the what now?
moonbug
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:31 pm (UTC)
Your item one 'If I've got a husband...'

And I totally hear you on this one. People have finally started to stop insisting I'll want a baby. Maybe that's because I steer clear of conversations headed that way!

I agree with others who say longer-lived pets can be remembered for more of the love than the heartbreak. Lizards! Birds! Cats! Dogs! Horses!

You've always wanted a pony, haven't you? ;)
nickmurdoch
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:31 pm (UTC)
Oh, I think I may have missed the 'if' at the start of that sentence... oops!
reaperfox
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:41 pm (UTC)
XD thought so! I'm not crazy enough to get married yet, all I ever do is crush on guys who play TF2 or dress up as Phoenix Wright, for God's sake :P

(or, y'know, animated guys who don't actually exist.)
nickmurdoch
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:46 pm (UTC)
Nothin' wrong with cosplaying TF2 gamers :P
reaperfox
Mar. 11th, 2009 11:17 pm (UTC)
wanted; cosplaying, gaming cartoonist. Being cute and American helps. :3
ugerchucker
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:00 pm (UTC)
Meh, kids aren't for everyone. Worlds over crowded anyway.

I've been hanging around them all week and frankly, I'm scared any kids I have will end up like some of the shits I've seen today.


Still want them though...just not any time soon.
tania
Mar. 11th, 2009 11:31 pm (UTC)
This. I want them myself, eventually, when I don't feel like such a kid myself. I'd like to turn out a couple of good'uns who don't make life miserable for everyone else, y'know?

I really admire those who've decided NOT to have kids, because yeah, I think this world could use a bit of a drop in population.
the_faery_queen
Mar. 11th, 2009 08:09 pm (UTC)
it does hurt when an animal is put to sleep, but i think the fun and love with them is worth it. rats didn't live long enough for me, but cats and dogs do. i think mine are worth any pain that might come when they leave me.
violetomega
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:42 am (UTC)
Well, as some people have said here, it's okay to have or not to have kids - whatever you decide. I'll probably have some or one in the end, but it's because I have had conversations with older people about this. They tell me, you'll reach a point. Your relationship can't go further, yet both of you want to do something more, so you decide to have a child.

It's all very romantic, but not for me just yet. But eventually. Maybe.

Just whatever you decide - make sure the decision isn't forced upon you by someone else.
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